Traver Boehm is a man of the heart. He is a primal man, a sensitive man, and a Man Uncivilized. Traver is a man that was completely broken by life, and decided to skillfully use the pain as rocket fuel for growth. It is that pain that rebuilt a life dedicated to service. That service is vital to our current state of thought in regards to what it means to be a man.
This episode aims to challenge your way of thinking, and open your mind to the action of surrender, ownership, and forgiveness. We talk about service, choosing strength, soulful crying, surrendering hate and regret, creating space to think, finding gratitude, “seeing” in darkness, finding yourself, the 21st Century Man, and helping guide others like a lighthouse in a storm. It’s okay to feel. Vulnerability is Strength. I am full of pride and gratitude for Traver and this episode. This may be one of the most important ones I do. Because of Traver, we are One Day Stronger.
Get Up Strong,
“No Man is more unhappy than he who never faces adversity. For he is not permitted to prove himself.” -Seneca
Below are show notes, quotes, links, & more info discussed in the episode:
Intro: Desiderata by Max Ehrmann
3:47 So who were you? Unfigured Out. Something was deeply missing. I was half born.
5:21 Beautiful Death – Knowing Thyself – Temet Nosce
8:51 What moments woke you up? “Hang on”
11:10 Meditation – Go sit down and be with yourself
12:50 Utah – Month in the Wilderness. (Boulder Outdoor Survival School) – Discussion and lesson about forgiveness.
22:00 Service “My life would not have been ripped to shreds to be be rebuilt in a way that would be self-servicing. I am dedicated to service.”
22:40 Driven by pain or driven by love? “Pain is the catalyst that got me here.”
Balance “If your pain could speak to yourself, what would it say?”
25:44 Strength is a Choice. Comparing Down.
How do you get someone to choose strength? Humility. Find Gratitude.
28:28 Surrender, Ownership, Forgiveness
30:00 Carrying Hate. How to surrender it?
32:00 Learning to Breathe “Create Space” How to meditate. Box breathing.
39:45 The Year to Live Project – 28 day Dark Retreat, 28 day survival course in Utah, volunteered in a hospice
42:00 How long did it take to journey inward while in an environment with no light or sound?
49:15 How do you see in complete darkness? Hallucinations
51:21 “If you are strong within then you can deal with anything without.”
52:52 Why spend time in a hospice? “It is a blackbelt in space holding.”
54:24 Standing in front of someone you love that is dying.
56:45 How do you deal with regret?
57:00 The 21st Century Man
1:03:55 It’s ok to feel. Vulnerability is Strength.
1:07:45 What do you struggle with? How to find a home.
1:10:35 Communities – Built on a universal struggle
1:11:55 Combat – Taking a throwing a punch – Man Uncivilized
TraverBoehm.com -email, text….. Reach out for help!!
How to teach kids Grit…. Get Up Strong
1:26:45 How can people in support roles help their Men?
Today I Rise – Traver’s Book
Way of the Peaceful Warrior – Dan Millman
@traverboehm, @1scottmcgee, @thesisuway
Ted Talk – How to make Pain Your Guru
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